I love this – it isn’t mine, it came from http://binduwiles.com/about/

Going to Hell and back can leave you with many gifts. Like tenderness, and clarity, and psychic abilities, and resiliency, and a wicked sense of humor wherein you laugh about things that you shouldn’t really be laughing about. You get these things if a) you can unwind the knot of confusion going to Hell and back leaves you with, and b) not let the victim mentality and the bitterness overtake you.

I just had to repost and claim a little of that wisdom for myself.